"PEACE I LEAVE WITH YOU, MY PEACE I GIVE TO YOU, NOT AS THE WORLD GIVES DO I GIVE TO YOU. DO NOT LET YOUR HEART BE TROUBLED OR LET IT BE AFRAID." ~ JOHN 14:27

cup half empty or half full

Thank you everyone who continues to love on us and support us. This great big community truly amazes me as so many of you uphold all six members and pieces of Seans heart that are here. This past month time and time again when Ive felt heart broken or discouraged or even wondered how I’ll make ends meet so many different people have showed up. Whether its with a hug and an encouraging word, groceries at my door, or covering large monthly bills. Thank you.

Ive been thinking a lot about looking at the cup half empty or half full and to be truthful i’ve lived a very full cup life. Even when it was half full it was quite clear how blessed we were. Since Sean died its felt like the cup has been shattered. Some days trying to just clear the tears to pick up the pieces of glass is difficult. But I have found in these times there is always someone or even just a still small voice that is consistent and says I will help you gather these pieces and put this cup back together. I have found in this most vulnerable raw times I am learning far more then I have ever in my most capable times. And it is only through accepting help and support from others where healing truly comes this is so hard. But I will continue to do so. So thank you for being willing to be our hands and feet.

Heading into Christmas is going to be unmeasurably hard. I am trying to keep the attitude of Quinton who said, “christmas is going to be very different without dad”

And I am believing it will be different but it does not have to bad, horrible, and sucky, instead I am pushing forward and into love, peace, and joy this season.

Many of you have asked how you can help us. Its been hard for me to wrap my brain around Christmas without Sean and even writing that brings a certain heaviness. We both loved Christmas and our home has always been filled with so much Christmas spirit.

So if you could firstly pray for this for us. That would be so appreciated.

Other needs are:
Christmas Lights for the house.
Someone to put up lights on the house

Jenna is heading to bible college at Hillsong Australia in January. I am going over for 10 days to help settle her in. She has finances for her first semester. So proud of her and all her hard work she has done to get herself there. She would love your continued prayer over this next season as God leads and guides her.

Praying for all those heading into the holidays who are not looking forward to it. I understand this weight now, but truly believe it can be Merry and Bright even this heavy season

Happy Thanksgiving from the Lalondes

Wanted to write a quick note and just thank every person who has loved on our family this month. Holidays will never be the same without Sean but even when we head into these hard seasons I am surprised by the overwhelming peace each one of us has gotten. I started a thankfulness wall with the kids at the beginning of the month and I have been amazed at what they have come up with.

Everyday they are eager to write down something new to be thankful for. I decided I needed to do this too for the week leading up to thanksgiving. Even though I didn’t feel like it or really want to. I have done it and I had to share what an impact it has made in our home. There is something super powerful about expressing gratitude. Since putting this into practice this month I have been overwhelmed by Gods peace and love. So I want to encourage you to do the same. Life can be so flipping hard but if you look there is always something you can be thankful for.

Say it. Say I’m thankful for out loud and I guarantee the atmosphere will change. So again I am so thankful for you, our community that has continued to love my family. We feel so blessed and loved and I know Sean would be thankful to see our hearts being poured into this way!

Family Update

It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to be sad. It does not mean you are depressed or not strong or have failed in some way. I’ve never walked thru real tragedy and to be honest a lot of people never have to and I would not wish this on them. It’s hard to explain the kind of pain both physical, emotional, internal, that you feel when everything you prayed for, everything you hoped for, the one you truly loved and thought you would grow old with, when all that is gone, it leaves a bit of brokenness. And that’s ok.

I heard a preacher say recently that it is in our brokenness where we truly realize our need for God. I thought I had always understood my need for God. I’ve almost always served him and loved him. But now I need him. On days I’m mad or hurt or do not even want to acknowledge a god I realize how much I need Him. That I need to choose him, because without a God or eternity this life, all my hopes and dreams are over. So I will choose to believe more. I will choose to believe God has a bigger plan. That somehow all this pain and hurt is not for nothing but for a bigger purpose. And it is in these moments, where I choose God, that I hear this still small whisper, which is actually the ever slightest feeling of something, someone greater. Saying I’ve got you, it’s going to be ok, you might never see it or understand the whys, but trust me.
So I’ll choose to trust.

This past month has been the hardest yet. With our anniversary and my birthday both celebrations Sean was always so good at making memorable. So many memories. I decided at the beginning of September to take the month to breathe. To create space and just be. I am so thankful for this platform to share and am so thankful for everyone’s messages and love this past month. I just knew I needed some space to grieve. And God has been so present and has sent some really great friends to encourage and strengthen me and I am so thankful for that. So as hard as this month has been it has equally been blessed.

Over the summer I kept getting two words BE STILL and this has kept coming to me over this past month. I have decided to keep the kids in their same schools, continue to rent from my dad who is giving us an amazing deal, and to be present. I have decided to take this school year to stay at home and be present for the kids. I took this month to crunch numbers and believe for this school year we should be able to do this and survive. If god has taught me anything over these past years it is that He will take care of us. And I am so thankful for this amazing community that continues to support our families.

I woke up this morning to a family putting money in my bank account. It brought me to tears as this particular family has been a consistent support for Sean while he was sick and each month since he died has sent us money and I can’t explain how blessed I feel.

Please continue to keep all five of ths kids in your prayers. They are all doing amazing and I’ve learned how strong and influential each one of them is. I’m so incredibly proud of the people each of them are and that instead of becoming hard they have become soft and loving towards so many.

Jenna is turning 18 this month and heading to Hillsong College in January.
Millah is in grade 8 and made the school leadership team.
Lennon broke his finger but continues to do every sport possible in spite of his cast he’ll have for 5weeks.
Quinton is thriving in grade 4 and continues to look out for those around him.
Jovie turned 7 this summer and celebrated more times then can be counted. She continues to miss her dad all the time but is also FULL of joy.

So that’s a little update on how we are. I so appreciate everyone’s continued love on our family we need it now more the ever. Please continue to pray for healing for us and that Seans story, his prayer for this year would be lived out. In January He told me “Victory is Mine” he said “Val, whether I live or die I believe that’s my word for this year” so we will walk in that.
Being here in Ireland has been such a restful time. We have been able to come together, talk, cry, and learn how to function as a family with their dad (leader) in heaven. I have learned so much from so many of you and I know that each of my kids have as well.

The other day a friend arranged for her friend who sells fancy cars to bring one by for the boys to have a look and go for a ride. This person was a stranger to us and could have easily said no, sorry I’m super busy, which I’m sure he is. Instead he chose to stay out late after work and come and bless my boys in a way they will remember for the rest of their lives. This got me thinking. How many times in the past have I been busy and someone asked me to help move, clean, or even just give them a lift somewhere. This act of kindness really challenged me. In a time where we are told to protect our time and put ourselves before others, love ourselves, I want to be different. I want to choose loving others, sacrificing my time to help someone in need. Going out of my way even when I’m tired to have someone over who might need to talk. It is easy to give when we have much but I want to be someone who digs deep and gives freely without a second thought. So many of you have blessed us this way over this past year and have truly inspired me so thank you.

This is just one of the many things I’ve been challenged in this summer. We all continue to miss Sean everyday. It’s been very cool to watch the kids share his love and about his life with so many here who had never even met him. I’m reminded of what an amazing dad he was and how much he loved God and people. I feel hopeful seeing so much of him in the kids and know that his love and life will not be forgotten but will continue to inspire and lead others.

Thanks for reading, and continuing to pray for our family. God has been speaking and placing hopes and dreams in my heart for the future. Continuing to take one day at a time and realizing that’s ok. I do not have to control the future or figure everything out right now. It is ok to be still.

we as as family continue to feel encouraged

Thank you to every person that has made this summer trip possible whether you have supported us from home with prayers, cleaning, managing our air bnb, finances, or here in Ireland loving on our family, driving, feeding, and spoiling and loving on all the kids. Nothing has gone unnoticed and my heart feels overwhelmingly full. In such a time where we could feel overwhelmed and in despair, we as as family continue to feel encouraged, strengthen, and hopeful and that is because of you.

Being here in Ireland has been such a restful time. We have been able to come together, talk, cry, and learn how to function as a family with their dad (leader) in heaven. I have learned so much from so many of you and I know that each of my kids have as well.

The other day a friend arranged for her friend who sells fancy cars to bring one by for the boys to have a look and go for a ride. This person was a stranger to us and could have easily said no, sorry I’m super busy, which I’m sure he is. Instead he chose to stay out late after work and come and bless my boys in a way they will remember for the rest of their lives. This got me thinking. How many times in the past have I been busy and someone asked me to help move, clean, or even just give them a lift somewhere. This act of kindness really challenged me. In a time where we are told to protect our time and put ourselves before others, love ourselves, I want to be different. I want to choose loving others, sacrificing my time to help someone in need. Going out of my way even when I’m tired to have someone over who might need to talk. It is easy to give when we have much but I want to be someone who digs deep and gives freely without a second thought. So many of you have blessed us this way over this past year and have truly inspired me so thank you.

This is just one of the many things I’ve been challenged in this summer. We all continue to miss Sean everyday. It’s been very cool to watch the kids share his love and about his life with so many here who had never even met him. I’m reminded of what an amazing dad he was and how much he loved God and people. I feel hopeful seeing so much of him in the kids and know that his love and life will not be forgotten but will continue to inspire and lead others.

Thanks for reading, and continuing to pray for our family. God has been speaking and placing hopes and dreams in my heart for the future. Continuing to take one day at a time and realizing that’s ok. I do not have to control the future or figure everything out right now. It is ok to be still.

travel to England and Ireland

Seems weird to be updating in the “prayforsean” page but I believe pray for Sean was so much more then just praying for Seans physical healing. Anyone who knew him or even those who just knew of him knew how much he loved people without judgment. He had such a vision for others to come to their full potential in life and walk out their God given talent. For them not to settle on just getting by but living their dreams to the fullest. Whenever I think of Sean I see how much he truly did this. He walked thru so many battles but did not let them define him rather used them to help and encourage others and bring greatness into this world. So I truly believe “prayforsean” isn’t over. I believe he showed so many including myself and our five kids what living life is all about and would want me to share and encourage others in doing this.
So my prayer is that anyone who knew him does this, makes right choices, learns from their mistakes, and above all else loves people and loves God.

In my last update I shared that myself and the four younger kids had an opportunity to travel to England and Ireland. We have been gone now for a month and how blessed we are all feeling.

I am so thankful for all your prayers and support. So many of you are praying in this time of healing and how we feel this. There have also been so many of you who have continued to help us whether with money or caring for our house or puppy while we are away and we are so thankful for you.

Since arriving in Ireland all of my family and friends here have done nothing but embrace and love on each of us and we are so thankful for this. It has been amazing to be cared for and loved in such a way that overwhelms my heart and fills my eyes with tears.

The kids have been loving seeing their close friends and have also felt so loved. We’ve had amazing weather and endless adventures. Riding the tube in London, seeing the palace. Exploring old castles, museums, and art galleries. Getting outdoors hiking, and laying by the ocean collecting shells and letting the salty goodness really has a way of healing the soul. There have been many tears and many talks. We miss Sean every minute of every day. But I have been so blessed by each one of my kids and seeing their strength and wisdom and how they have let this tradgedy make their hearts soft rather then hard.

Jenna is working all summer at bible camp. She is having an amazing time ministering to others while being surrounded by creation. We all miss her so and have had a hard time not being able to keep in touch, with her being out of cellphone range. But I am trusting God to continue to reveal himself to her in such clear ways and direct her in the future as she embarks on new adventures after school. So proud of who she is and how she is loving others.

And well that is it for now. Thank you for your love and support. And please make sure to go out of your way and say I love you to that family member that you know knows it but might actually need to hear it. Help out a stranger. Lend an ear to someone who needs to talk. When they talk hear them rather then answering them. Keep your heart soft towards them and call out what you know they could be/do. At least that’s what Sean would do. ❤️

Our hearts are hurting but we will not be broken

I wanted to update as many of you as possible. Thank you for all your love and support this past month. Sean lost his battle against a disease that truly attacks and destroys every part of your physical body. Watching someone you love fight with every fibre of their being right down to their last breath is not something I would wish on anyone. But Sean still had his victory. He went out with such a spirit that was not defeated but was sad to leave us behind. He left this world praying and believing that more would come to know the love of God.
His body was destroyed but his soul had complete victory.

Thank you for continuing to love us, pray for us, care for us. This past year showed Sean that his family who he loved with all his heart would be ok. That so many of you would rise to the occasion to help orphans and widows.

We have been so sad but yet have felt so loved, so carried. This past month whether with an encouraging word, a meal, gift card, sending us money we have felt loved, lifted carried through the pain of this huge hole left in our heart.

Many of you do not know but I grew up in Ireland and have been missing home for quite sometime. Sean and I had discussed and we had agreed if the worst thing happened it would be a good idea for me and the kids to have some time together away from the hustle of our busy lives. I stepped out in faith and asked a dear friends dad to look into flights for our family to Europe. He found some and booked them for me and I was planning to etransfer him. Not knowing the price he sent me an email with the tickets and cost at the same time I received two other emails being etransfers from two people who had no idea of our need and the amount they sent covered our flights down to the exact dollar. So thank you for being a part of our story!

We are going to be in England and Ireland for the summer visiting Seans grandma in England and friends and family in Ireland all the while having time together and making memories. While away we are air bnbing our home to help cover our rent and the cost of our trip. Thank you to all of you who helped make this endeavour happen! We got rid of 40bags of garbage and put a lot of stuff in storage.

Please continue to pray for each one of us. Our hearts are hurting but we will not be broken and believe Sean would want us to continue on loving God and people.

Pray for Jenna she graduated top of her class is planning on going to Hillsong In January and is working at a bible camp this summer counselling kids.
Pray for Millah her tender 13year old heart has been experiencing so many hard changes, she is taking them well, but also feels very deeply. A lot like her dad.
Pray for Lennon, he’s watching me constantly trying to make sure I am ok but I don’t want him to feel this weight.
Pray for Quinton his processing is so different from the rest of the kids and he internalizing things quite often.
Pray for Jovie. She misses her daddy and wants him back most days but still have her joyful spirit.

We know God still has a plan and future for us. We miss Sean everyday but believe he is the happiest he’s ever been.

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